St. Paul's School Alumni Horae

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The section was updated April 10, 2018. Please note that deaths are reported as we receive notice of them. Therefore, alumni dates of death are not always reported chronologically.

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1938 Richard Budd “Dick” McAdoo

A prominent book publisher and author who loved traveling and spending time with his family, died on January 6, 2018, in Lexington, Mass.  He was 97. Known as Dick to his friends, Mr. McAdoo was born on March 25, 1920, in Fort Washington, Pa., to Margaret Nice McAdoo and Henry Molseed McAdoo. He attended local schools before entering St. Paul’s School as a First Former in the fall of 1932. His passion for books and writing became apparent when he joined the staff of the Horae Scholasticae and eventually rose to the position of editor. He also was a member of the Library Association, the Concordian Literary Society, and the Missionary Society, served on the Student Council and as a supervisor. Mr. McAdoo played football and hockey with Isthmian and rowed with Shattuck. 

Two of McAdoo’s brothers, Henry McAdoo of the Form of 1934 and William McAdoo of the Form of 1931, also attended St. Paul’s. He attended Harvard, where he accelerated his studies in English, history, and literature to graduate with the Class 1942, before enlisting in the U.S. Army. Mr. McAdoo served for three years, stationed with the 989th Field Artillery in France and Germany before he was discharged as a captain in 1945. The following year, Mr. McAdoo began what would be a long and notable career in publishing. In 1948, Mr. McAdoo married Mary Wigglesworth McAdoo. Together, the couple raised three daughters and enjoyed many adventures until her death in 2015. 

Mr. McAdoo worked in New York as an editor and, later, vice president of Harper & Bros, which became Harper & Row. He brought roughly 400 books to print, including John Kenneth Galbraith’s The Affluent Society and the memoirs of Joseph Stalin’s daughter. In 1968, Mr. McAdoo moved his family from Cold Spring Harbor, N.Y., to Cambridge, Mass., where he worked for Houghton Mifflin Co. There, he edited Ann Sexton, Arthur Schlesinger, Jr., and Archibald MacLeish, for whom he also served as literary executor. He retired in 1982 as editor-in-chief and head of the trade division, but Mr. McAdoo’s literary exploits weren’t over. He and Mary toured the U.S. in an RV, and Mr. McAdoo filed regular travel dispatches with the Boston Globe. In 1991, he published a book about their adventures, Eccentric Circles: Around America in a House on Wheels. 

Mr. McAdoo remained active in the St. Paul’s community, serving as form agent in the early 1950s and, three decades later, as form director. In 1991, he wrote a long essay for Alumni Horae, describing his time at St. Paul’s and how arriving on campus was “like walking out of shadows into light.” His creative passions extended beyond the page. Mr. McAdoo studied sculpture for many years with master carver and sculptor Joseph Wheelwright ’66, and he served on the board of the Cambridge Art Association and Monadnock Music in Peterborough, N.H. When they weren’t traveling, the McAdoos enjoyed spending time at their 1770 farmhouse in Temple, N.H. He also enjoyed frequent dinners at the Tavern Club in Boston. 

Mr. McAdoo is survived by his daughters and their spouses, Maisie McAdoo and David Neustadt, Pamela McAdoo and William Denton, and Julia McAdoo and Timothy Winship; grandchildren Nora and Lucas Neustadt, Remy Denton and spouse Lauren Ro Wang, Cassia Denton, and Sarah Winship; and many nieces and nephews, including Henry McAdoo ’70.

 

1939 Francis H. Bohlen III

A war hero and a loyal family man, died on December 15, 2017. He was 96. Mr. Bohlen was born in Philadelphia on September 22, 1921, and entered St. Paul’s School as a Third Former in 1935. He earned Second Testimonials in 1936. While at St. Paul’s, he captained the varsity track team and the Old Hundred football team and rowed with Halcyon. He also was a member of the Cadmean Literary Society and the Acolyte’s Guild. The Bohlen family was steeped in the St. Paul’s tradition. Both Mr. Bohlen’s father, Francis H. Bohlen (1913), and grandfather, Francis H. Bohlen (1884), attended St. Paul’s School, as did several other relatives. He was followed to St. Paul’s by his brothers, Franklin W. Bohlen ’41, and Dudley R. Bohlen ’48. 

After St. Paul’s, Mr. Bohlen attended Princeton, but left to join the Navy after the U.S. entered World War II. He was a member of the Navy Air Corps, where he taught flying and served as a pilot in both the Atlantic and Pacific. He witnessed the seizure of the U505 off North Africa, one of six U-boats that were captured by Allied forces during World War II, and the first warship captured by U.S. forces on the high seas since the War of 1812. Mr. Bohlen received both a Bronze Star and a Silver Star for his service in the Okinawa campaign. While stationed in New Orleans during the war, he met Sarah Villere, a daughter of one of the city’s founding families. They were wed on January 6, 1943, and remained happily married until her death in 2007.

After the war, Mr. Bohlen returned to finish his studies at Princeton, graduating in 1943, then went on to receive an LL.D. from Tulane in 1947. In 1948 he and Sarah returned to the Philadelphia area, where they raised two children and volunteered for many community organizations. Mr. Bohlen first worked for Stroud and Co., and later for the contracting department at RCA. Upon retirement, the couple moved to Easton, Md., to be closer to their sailboat. Later, Mr. Bohlen joined Jack Ripley ’37 as partners in a vineyard in Maryland.

Mr. Bohlen is survived by his son, Robert M. Bohlen, and his daughter, Sidney Bohlen Spahr; five grandchildren; and four great-grandsons.

 

1943 Robert H.R. Loughborough

Veteran, author, and reverend in the Presbyterian Church, died in Danville, Pa., on September 15, 2017. He was 92. Rev. Loughborough was born in Manhattan in 1925, and prepared for St. Paul’s at Greenwich Academy in Connecticut, Morrow School in Englewood, N.J., and St. Bernard’s School in New York. He was entered for application to St. Paul’s at age two, to follow the footsteps of his uncle, George Frederick Burt of the Form of 1927. Rev. Loughborough arrived as a Second Former in 1938; however, he withdrew in 1940 due in part to his mother’s poor health. After leaving St. Paul’s, he graduated from Trinity School in New York in June 1943.

Rev. Loughborough served in the U.S. Navy from 1943 to 1946. Upon his return, he studied at Union College in Schenectady, N.Y., and transferred to Yale, where he was elected Phi Beta Kappa. He graduated from Yale with a B.A. on June 20, 1949, and continued his studies there, going on to earn a degree from the divinity school in 1952. Later in life, he returned to graduate studies at Temple University in Philadelphia and at Montclair State University in New Jersey. Rev. Loughborough was ordained in October of 1952 in The Brick Church of New York City, which his childhood place of worship. His career included pastoral service at Central Presbyterian Church in Montclair, N.J.; the First Presbyterian Church of Coudersport, Pa.; the State Street Presbyterian Church in Schenectady; Mahoning Presbyterian Church in Danville, Pa.; Marion and Harmony Presbyterian Church of Belle Vernon, Pa,; before his final pastorate, at the Roscoe Presbyterian Church of Roscoe, Pa.

He retired in 1987, but maintained an active volunteer service, ministering to patients and their families at the Geisinger Medical Center, where he volunteered for almost 20 years. Outside of his work, he was passionate about antique cars, coins, and stamps. In 2006, Rev. Loughborough published a book of 31 sermons entitled Love Without Walls, the royalties from which he donated to Habitat for Humanity. 

 

1944 William Paul “Bill” Hills

Journalist, historian, devoted husband, father, and grandfather, died of complications from pneumonia on January 23, 2018, three weeks before his 92nd birthday. Mr. Hills was born on February 12, 1926, in Auburn, N.Y., to Jane (Seymour) and Paul W. Hills of the Form of 1913. He came to SPS from Eaglebrook School, entering as a Third Former in the fall of 1940. He competed as an Isthmian, playing football, hockey, baseball, and tennis. While at SPS, Mr. Hills lost his brother, James, an Andover graduate, in an Army training accident. Mr. Hills was always grateful to the SPS faculty and staff who supported him in his grief. After SPS, Mr. Hills graduated from Prince-ton in 1950 as a member of the Class of 1948, his undergraduate years interrupted by service in the U.S. Army Air Corps. From 1950 to 1951, he studied history and French at the University of Grenoble.

In 1951, Mr. Hills joined the staff of The Watertown Daily Times of Watertown, N.Y., beginning as a reporter, and later becoming an editorial writer. He resided in Watertown for the rest of his life, marrying Marian Flower Jones of Watertown in 1953. As a result of contracted polio in 1952, Mr. Hills became unable to walk. After a year of rehabilitation, he regained nearly complete normal limb function, and was able to walk, bicycle, swim, ski or play tennis until he developed post-polio syndrome in his seventies. Mr. Hills maintained a lifelong interest in politics and economics. Awarded a Reid Foundation journalism fellowship in 1956 to report overseas, he spent a year living in Munich with Marian and their two oldest children, James ’72 and William, Jr. ’74, on Germany’s transition to democracy and the impact of the Marshall Plan. He eventually left The Watertown Daily Times to join his wife in running Jones Sport Shop on Public Square, a specialty sporting goods store that operated until 1970. He then took up independent research and writing. He wrote three commissioned histories of Northern New York industry. At the time of his death, Mr. Hills was at work on a biography of former New York State governor Roswell P. Flower, a Northern New York native whose self-made rise to political and financial prominence and influence was of endless
fascination to Mr. Hills.

As a researcher and lover of learning, Mr. Hills embraced the digital age. In 2009, he created a blog featuring the extensive letters his father wrote to his own mother from Europe during World War I. To commemorate the 90th anniversary of World War I, Mr. Hills posted the letters for three years, corresponding to the day and month they were written, beginning in 1917. For decades, Mr. Hills served as an alumni liaison for Princeton admissions, interviewing and advocating strongly on behalf of scores of Northern New York candidates. He will be remembered by family and friends as a sensitive, loyal, and intelligent man of quiet, self-deprecating wit, and as a writer and speaker of clear thought and lucid prose, devoid of hyperbole, and respectful of facts. Mr. Hills is survived by his wife of 64 years, Marian Jones Hills; his sons, James S. Hills ’72 and William P. Hills, Jr. ’74; his daughters, Day F. Hills ’76 and Carol B. Hills; and three grandchildren.

 

1944 Nicholas Gouverneur Rutgers, Jr. 

An adventurer and an entrepreneur, with a strong connection to his family history, died peacefully in his sleep on December 29, 2017, with his wife of 70 years, Nancy, by his side. He was 92. Born in New Brunswick, N.J., on April 30, 1925, Mr. Rutgers was raised in the Garden State with two older sisters, Martha and Alice. His mother, Helen Rutgers, was the daughter of James Wood Johnson, one of the original founders of the Johnson and Johnson Company. His father, Nicholas G. Rutgers, was a broker on the New York Stock Exchange. 

Before coming to St. Paul’s School as a Second Former in 1939, Mr. Rutgers studied at The Buckley School. According to family stories, as the youngest student at St. Paul’s that year, Mr. Rutgers actually lived in the Rectory. He was a member of the Library Society, and the Student Council and sang in the Choir and Glee Club. He also played football, hockey, and tennis and was a rower. Mr. Rutgers left St. Paul’s in 1942 to join the Marines. He served in the Pacific during World War II, flying with the Torpedo Squadron of the U.S. Marine Air Corps from the U.S.S. Block Island, the Marines’ first carrier. He was awarded an Air Medal with two gold stars and, upon his return, a war diploma from St. Paul’s. After the war, Mr. Rutgers enrolled at Rutgers University, planning to study history. He was a great-great-great-great-nephew of Colonel Henry Rutgers, a generous philanthropist and benefactor of the University, then called Queens College. He loved Rutgers, but his heart had already been willingly given to a beautiful young woman, Nancy Hall, daughter of famed author and novelist James Norman Hall, whom he had promised to marry upon his return. In 1947, the couple was married, and Nick left Rutgers. 

The young couple lived briefly in Los Angeles, before moving to Oahu, Hawaii, and in 1952 to Tahiti, where Nancy’s parents lived. They built a family home, where they raised their four children, Cynthia, Nicholas V, Anthony, and James. While engaged in parenting four children, Mr. Rutgers also found time to co-found and publish the Tahiti Bulletin, the English-language newspaper on the island. Although Mr. Rutgers never returned to Rutgers to finish his degree, he often visited the campus and remained highly active in University affairs. He was considered a member of the Class of 1950 and was a popular speaker at many Rutgers events. Mr. Rutgers served as a charter member of the board of overseers of the Rutgers University Foundation for 30 years, until his election as an overseer emeritus. He was a three-time chairman of the Rutgers Fund, from 1992 until 1995, and helped launch the Colonel Henry Rutgers Society, the University’s organization for planned giving. In 1989, Mr. Rutgers served as both grand parade marshal and honorary chairman of the Rutgers homecoming celebration. The University honored him as a Loyal Son of Rutgers in 1996 and presented him with the Scarlet Oak Meritorious Service Award in 2000.

Mr. Rutgers was very generous with his time and money. His bequest to Rutgers University will benefit the Rutgers Center for Human Evolutionary Studies and the Nicholas G. Rutgers, Jr. Soccer Student-Athlete Scholarship. In addition to his numerous contributions to Rutgers University, Mr. Rutgers was involved with Hawaii Preparatory Academy, attended by his four children, seven grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren. Mr. Rutgers served on the Board of Governors of the Academy for many years, and he provided a gift in 1999 that created the Rutgers Tennis Center, one of the best such facilities in the country, according to the United States Tennis Association. Mr. Rutgers also served on the board of directors of the Bishop Museum in Honolulu, the largest museum in Hawaii and the premier natural and cultural history institution in the Pacific. In his early years in Tahiti, Mr. Rutgers worked to secure a movie of his father-in-law’s book, Mutiny on the Bounty, starring Marlon Brando. Later in life, Mr. and Mrs. Rutgers began work on the James Norman Hall House in Arue, Tahiti, a museum that celebrates the life and work of the author and includes a library of more than 3,000 volumes, as well as Hall’s typewriter, manuscripts, and heirlooms. The museum was adopted by the Tahitian government as a national treasure and is now under its patronage. Mr. Rutgers was fascinated by the history of the families that make up his genealogy, and wrote two monographs on the subject: The Rutgers Family of New York and New
Jersey (1967) and Four Families of New York and New Jersey: Rutgers, Livingston, Gouverneur, Neilson (1976), which are part of the Sinclair New Jersey Collection of the Rutgers University Libraries Special Collections and University Archives.

In addition to his wife, Nancy Rutgers, Mr. Rutgers is survived by his daughter, Cynthia Rutgers Overhardt, and his three sons and two daughters-in-law, Nicholas G. Rutgers III; Anthony L. and Diane Rutgers, and James N. and Mele Rutgers; nine grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mr. Rutgers was predeceased in 2010 by his daughter-in-law, Brigette Rutgers. SPS relations include Anthony Duke ’60, Nicholas Duke ’65, and Angier “Biddle” Duke ’81. 

 

1947 Frank Pierce Strickler III

A former vice president at Citizens Fidelity Bank and later PNC Bank, died on August 9, 2017, at age 89. Mr. Strickler was born on August 1, 1928, in Louisville, Ky., to Dr. Frank P. Strickler, Jr. and Eleanor Carter Strickler. He was admitted to SPS in April of 1944 as a Fourth Former. He attended Louisville Male High School, prior to coming to SPS. A character recommendation by an administrator at Louisville described Mr. Strickler as possessing “all those qualities which make for an ideal citizen. His honesty and dependability are above reproach…and [he] is quite self-reliant.” 

Mr. Strickler took two algebra courses and a class on gas engines at the 1944 Summer Session of St. Mark’s School, where he was known as a “pleasant fellow.” He took more algebra as well as French over the summer of 1945 at Phillips Exeter Academy. Mr. Strickler was also known as “a boy who works industriously, has a good cooperative attitude in his house, and plays a constructive part in our life here [at SPS].” Mr. Strickler was a member of the Filson Historical Society, the Society of Colonial Wars, Louisville Country Club, and River Valley Club. Mr. Strickler is survived by his wife of 64 years, Catherine Dawson Strickler; his children, Elizabeth, Frank, and Stewart; and six grandchildren. 

 

1947 Jeremy Belknap “Jerry” Whitney

Who will be remembered for his dry wit, kind spirit, generous friendship, and devotion to family, died on February 13, 2018, at home in South Dartmouth, Massachusetts. He was 89. Born on July 28, 1928, in New Bedford, Mass., he was the fourth child of Dorothy (Belknap) and Dr. Raymond C. Whitney. He grew up sailing, swimming, and skating with a brother and four sisters in Padanaram, Mass. He could also be found playing pool with the volunteer firemen at the engine house or assisting in the opening of the swing bridge in Padanaram Harbor, for which he was paid five cents. Dr. Whitney came to St. Paul’s School as a Second Former in 1942. He served on the Student Council, rowed with Halcyon, and played football for Old Hundred. He was a member of Der Deutsche Verein and the Propylean Literary Society. He went on to graduate from Harvard in 1950 and Tufts Medical School in 1954. He served in the Navy from 1956 to 1958 as a flight surgeon, with stations in Pensacola, Japan, and Kwajalein.

Following a residency at the Massachusetts Eye and Ear Infirmary, he returned to New Bedford in 1961. There he renovated a building in the historic district and took over his father’s ophthalmic practice. As a doctor, he was well-known for his kind and comprehensive manner, often receiving homemade gifts from grateful patients. When solo practice was no longer viable, he closed his surgical practice at age 70 and joined a group doing medical ophthalmology. He retired at age 75. On October 22, 1960, Dr. Whitney married Anne Ensworth in Ithaca, N.Y., and the couple had three daughters, Katherine, Susan, and Emily ’85. He was a wonderful dad, encouraging his daughters to follow their passions and reassuring them that “it will work out.” Dr. Whitney was supportive of all their endeavors and always reminded them to “hang by your thumbs and write if you get work.” He used the long-suffering Chicago Cubs to show them that winning isn’t everything. 

As time passed, the family grew, adding sons-in-law and grandchildren to the ranks. Each summer, 13 family members would gather for a week of love, laughter, and food. The grandkids loved sailing, romping on the beach, and playing cribbage with Gramps. In addition to his family and career, Dr. Whitney loved to run and was an avid reader. He was a devoted Chicago Cubs fan and enjoyed gunkholing in Buzzards Bay (this wonderful boating term describes the act of meandering from place to place in shallow, sometimes muddy, water) in his 18-foot Marshall Catboat. He claimed to have hit nearly every rock in Buzzards Bay – an impressive, if dubious, honor. He was the founding non-member and commodore of the Clark’s Cove Yacht Club, whose motto is “No Dues, No Members, No Parking, No Sweat.” Dr. Whitney kept in touch with St. Paul’s as a form agent in the 1970s and as a parent in the 1980s. He was very generous to the School and enjoyed visiting with his wife, Anne, who honored the school by joining the choir at the 65th and 70th Anniversaries of the Form of 1947. At the most recent reunion, Dr. Whitney was determined to walk in the Alumni Parade, despite a recent diagnosis of bone marrow disease. The opening hymn at his memorial service was “Love Divine,” while the School Prayer was part of the benediction. 

Dr. Whitney is survived by his wife of 57 years, Anne; his brother, Cyrus Whitney and his wife, Eileen; his sister, Priscilla Lawton; and his three daughters, Katherine Whitney and her husband, Farhad Farzaneh, Susie Whitney and her husband, Tim McVeagh, Emily (Whitney) Hartshorne ’85 and her husband, Dobbs; five grandchildren; his sister-in-law, Susan Saltus; and many nieces and nephews.

 

1949 Alexander Cochran Ewing

Who loved his family, the arts, education, and nature deeply, died of respiratory failure on December 27, 2017, in Winston-Salem, N.C. He was 86 years old. Born on February 25, 1931, to Thomas Ewing of the Form of 1915 and Lucia Chase, Mr. Ewing grew up in New York City with his brother, Thomas Ewing III ’47. His father, as well as his uncles, William Ewing (1917), Sherman Ewing (1919), Gifford Ewing (1922), and Bayard Ewing (1934) all had stories to tell of their days at St. Paul’s. At SPS, Mr. Ewing was a member of the Cadmean/Concordian Literary Society and the Dramatic Club and sang with the Glee Club. He played first hockey, tennis, and squash and graduated cum laude with honors in four subjects. He went on to Yale, where he played varsity squash and tennis and was a member of the St. Elmo and Scroll and Key Societies. He graduated with the Class of 1953. 

On February 15, 1968, Mr. Ewing married Carol Sonne. The couple had three children, Sandy, Eric, and Caroline. They resided in Millbrook, N.Y., but Mr. Ewing commuted to New York City every day. Mr. Ewing was inspired by his mother, a legendary dancer and American Ballet Theatre artistic director, to direct himself.  He was one of three founding directors and general director of the City Center Joffrey Ballet, where performances included everything from long-lost classical works to contemporary rock ballets. When Carol died in 1969, Mr. Ewing decided he should stay home with his children. So, he turned in his director’s chair and, with no prior experience or knowledge, began a new career in cattle breeding. Within a few years, he was one of the leading breeders of Polled Hereford cattle in the country. He raised several national grand champions and was named national premier breeder. 

On October 31, 1970, Mr. Ewing married Sheila Cobb and became the stepfather of her daughter, Cecilia Clarke. The couple’s 45-year marriage lasted until Sheila’s death in 2015. Mr. Ewing was an involved and enthusiastic father to his four children. He set an exemplary standard, nurturing in them curiosity, generosity, and thoughtfulness as well as a love of nature and animals. His bedtime stories were works of art that included unforgettable characters with hilarious names. Holidays and special occasions were celebrated in extravagant style. Christmas involved two trees – one lit with real candles – along with garlands, wreaths, and a family pageant. In 1990, after many years focusing on his family and his livestock, Mr. Ewing returned to the arts. He and Sheila moved to Winston-Salem, and he served as the chancellor of the University of North Carolina School of the Arts for 10 years. During his tenure, the school began a long-range campus building program, tripled its endowment, and established the first professional film school in the Southeast. Mr. Ewing also oversaw the creation of the Lucia Chase Endowed Fellowship in Dance. He remained heavily involved with the School of Arts following his retirement in 2000. He served as chancellor emeritus and interim dean of dance, and he and Sheila were often on campus for student performances. Mr. Ewing received an honorary doctorate from the school in 2003. He also wrote a book during this time –Bravura! – which chronicled his mother’s life and career with American Ballet Theatre. 

Mr. Ewing was not only a great father, husband, and mentor, but a true and loyal friend to many. In addition to his four children and close friends, he is survived by eight grandchildren. Mr. Ewing was predeceased in 1962 by his brother, Thomas Ewing III ’47.

 

1950 John Tillotson “Jack” Wainwright

An attorney, died at his home outside Lexington, Va., on February 2, 2018, after a long illness. He was 86. Born on July 10, 1931, Mr. Wainwright was the son of John T. Wainwright of the Form of 1918 and Alice Gertrude Cutts Wainwright. His father drowned eight months before Jack was born, while attempting to save the lives of the Consul to the U.S. Consulate to Havana and his wife, who had been swept off a rocky cliff by a rogue wave at Matanza Bay, Cuba. All three perished. Mrs. Wainwright moved back to Newport, R.I., to live with her parents until Jack was three, then to Coconut Grove, Fla. The two spent summers in Maine with her parents. Mrs. Wainwright later became a fierce advocate for environmental protection in Florida, enrolling in law school at age 40 to open her own law practice. 

Jack Wainwright came to New Hampshire in 1946 from Miami Country Day School. He was a member of the School’s World Federalist chapter and the Missionary Society and became a Sunday school teacher. Mr. Wainwright went on to study at Princeton. His studies were interrupted by service in the U.S. Army during the Korean War. He was a jumper and a Private First Class, before returning to Princeton, where he graduated cum laude in 1957. In 1959, Mr. Wainwright earned his J.D. from the University of Virginia and began work for the John F. Kennedy and, later, Robert F. Kennedy presidential campaigns. He was admitted to practice law before the courts of the District of Columbia and the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit. He specialized in the application of international law to matters relating to economic development, the release of prisoners of war, and the relief of political detainees. He held positions with the Department of State, the Agency for International Development, and as consultant to the International Relations Committee of the U.S. House of Representatives. His last work was advising the government of the POLISARIO in its efforts to establish recognized sovereignty in the Western Sahara.

On November 29, 1991, Mr. Wainwright married Catherine “Kitty” McIver Peacock in Barbados. The couple lived in Washington, D.C., and at their farm in Rockbridge County, Virginia, outside Lexington. With Kitty, Mr. Wainwright pursued his lifelong passion for traveling and adventure. Together they drove through a Kurdish village at dusk to find Hittite ruins on the border of Turkey and Syria. They slept on the sands of the Sahara and discussed with the president of Western Sahara how freedom and democracy might possibly be achieved for their besieged nation. Mr. Wainwright retired from his work and from traveling when his illness progressed. He continued to read history, poetry, and biographies and enjoy music and bird watching. He leaves his wife, Kitty; his sons from his first marriage, Andrew and Peter; and three grandchildren.  

 

1953 Marshall Morgan Jeanes

A successful businessman and lifelong supporter of St. Paul’s School, died on February 12, 2018, in Norwalk, Conn., after a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease. He was 82. Mr. Jeanes was born on September 7, 1935, in Devon, Pa., to Henry S. Jeanes of the Form of 1923 and Grace M. Jeanes. He attended local schools before entering St. Paul’s as a First Former in the fall of 1947. Mr. Jeanes sang in the Choir and Glee Club and was a member of the Missionary Society and the Scientific Association. He served as a supervisor in Brewster, rowed with Halcyon, and played football and ice hockey with Isthmian. Mr. Jeanes went to Harvard, where he earned his undergraduate degree in 1957. He joined the international division of J.P. Morgan, a job that took him to London and Frankfurt. He later became president of the Wallenberg’s New York Bank-SE Bank and, after retiring from that position, was the co-founder of Imcor, an interim management executive recruiting firm. 

Many members of the Jeanes family also attended St. Paul’s, including Mr. Jeanes’s father  and his brother, also named Henry S. Jeanes ’52. Mr. Jeanes loved St. Paul’s and often shared happy memories of his time as a student. He also supported the School with his time and financial resources. In addition to giving generously to projects such as the Athletic & Fitness Center, he served as form agent, form director, and president of the Alumni Association. He was a member of the Board of Trustees from 1998 to 2002 and a member of the John Hargate Society. Mr. Jeanes was fascinated by horticulture and spent as much time he could in his garden. He worked for many years to make natural beauty accessible to others by serving as head of the foundation board of the Willowwood Arboretum in Gladstone, N.J.  

Mr. Jeanes was predeceased in 1982 by his first wife, Elizabeth Townsend. Survivors include his wife of 34 years, Pamela Vandeveer Jeanes; two sons, Henry Townsend Jeanes and Christopher Baird Jeanes; four step-children, M. Simon Scott, Andrew Scott, Wendy Scott Cutler, and Katherine Scott Pilkington; and 17 grandchildren. 

 

1954 Joseph Cornelius “Cocie” Rathborne III

World traveler and a true southern gentleman, died on February 16, 2018, in his beloved New Orleans. He was 81. Mr. Rathborne was born on November 12, 1936, in Manhattan, but raised in Harvey, La., outside New Orleans. After preparing at the Newman School, he entered St. Paul’s as a Third Former in 1950, following his father, Joseph Cornelius “Cocie” Rathborne, Jr., of the Form of 1927, to the School. At SPS, Mr. Rathborne was a member of the Student Council and the Cadmean Literary Society, sang in the Glee Club, and served as president of La Junta. He played squash, tennis, soccer, and football for Old Hundred. 

Mr. Rathborne lost his mother while he was in high school and his father just a few months after graduation. He continued his studies at Yale, earning a B.A. in history in 1958. Following his graduation, he served as a 1st Lieutenant in the U.S. Marine Corps from 1958 through 1961. The Marine Corps and a brief interest in the business school at Stanford brought Mr. Rathborne to the West Coast. In 1962, he married Joan Preston of San Francisco and quickly established a successful business career there, first with the Wells Fargo Bank. The couple had two children, Diana and Cocie. The marriage ended in divorce in 1981. Mr. Rathborne married Carol Simmons and had two more children, Cam and Alexis. In 1989, Mr. Rathborne returned to his family home in New Orleans to serve as president of the 100-year-old Rathborne Land Company, formerly the Louisiana Cypress Lumber Company. Leading the family business for a new generation brought him great pride, and he continued working daily until he was 75. His involvement in the community and success with the company earned many civic recognitions for Mr. Rathborne, including membership on the New Orleans Business Council and the Jefferson Parish Business Council and the Junior Achievement Award. He married Nancy Railing in 2000 and became the step-father to her two children, Ashley and Lauren.

Mr. Rathborne never sat still without a book in his hands. He swam outside every day and enjoyed traveling. He was a member of the U.S. Seniors Golf Association, the Cypress Point Club, New Orleans Country Club, The Boston Club, School of Design, and La Confrérie des Chevaliers du Tastevin. He is survived by his beloved wife, Nancy Railing Rathborne; his children, Diana Rathborne, Cocie Rathborne, Cam Rathborne, Alexis Rathborne, Ashley Bowling, and Lauren Bowling Huray; four grandchildren; three siblings; and five nephews.

 

1955 Walter Crooker Sterling, Jr.

A loving husband, father and friend, who spoke at least nine languages and spent his career in foreign service work, died peacefully on December 24, 2017, in Concord, N.H. He was 80 years old and a resident of Hillsborough, N.H. Mr. Sterling was born in Concord on April 10, 1937, the son of Walter Crooker Sterling, Sr. and Grace Aldrich Sterling. He was nicknamed “Sunny” by his childhood friends and family. Mr. Sterling enrolled at St. Paul’s as a First Former in the fall of 1959. He sang in the Choir, was a member of La Junta and the Rifle Club, and served as treasurer of the Yearbook Committee. He competed with Isthmian and Shattuck. 

At a very young age, Mr. Sterling developed a love of learning. He was a subscriber for more than 70 years to National Geographic, which he read from cover to cover, instilling in him an eagerness to explore the world. Early on, he began focusing his studies on languages, cultures, and people. He attended Yale, earning a B.A. in 1959 in Spanish and Latin American studies, with a minor in Spanish literature. After college, Mr. Sterling began his career with the U.S. Information Agency as a Foreign Service staff officer in Brazil. He was later appointed director of the U.S.-Brazilian Cultural Center. Mr. Sterling also was a translator and interpreter for USAID projects in South America. Stationed in Washington, D.C., Mr. Sterling was the agency director of personnel at the Federal Power Commission. He then transitioned to the Navy, with positions at the Portsmouth Naval Shipyard in Kittery, Maine and the Naval Surface Warfare Center in Dahlgren, Va. He completed his career as an ESL teacher in the Hillsborough-Deering (N.H.) School District. Upon his retirement, Mr. Sterling spoke at least nine languages and was a certified translator in five of them. On March 10, 1962, Mr. Sterling married Photine Eliopoulos. Together the couple had three children, Yara, Elisa, and Walter. After 37 years, the marriage ended in divorce. He remarried in 2002 to Jiansheng Liu and enjoyed 15 years of marriage.

Mr. Sterling enjoyed traveling off the beaten path and was the happiest when he was with people or nature, including in his garden. He loved Chinese art and traveling. He is survived by his loving wife, Jiansheng Liu Sterling; his daughter, Yara Athena Sterling Montminy; his son, Walter Crooker Sterling III; and three grandchildren. He was predeceased on July 27, 2016, by his daughter, Elisa Grace Sterling Vega. 

 

1956 John M. Meyer III

A kind and thoughtful gentleman, died on December 6, 2017, in Westwood, Mass., with his children by his side. He was 79. Born on September 13, 1937, Mr. Meyer was the son of Emily M. Dobie Meyer Keep and John M. Meyer, Jr. of Greenwich, Conn. He prepared for SPS at Greenwich Country Day School, entering the School as a Third Former in the fall of 1952. At SPS, Mr. Meyer was active in theater. He sang in the Choir and Glee Club and
was a member of the Yearbook Committee, the Missionary Society, the Acolyte’s Guild, and La Junta. He enjoyed club soccer, skiing, and crew.

After high school, Mr. Meyer served in the U.S. Marine Corps, stationed on the U.S.S. Ticonderoga from 1956 to 1958. Mr. Meyer earned his undergraduate degree from Trinity College and his M.B.A. from The Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania in 1962. He spent his career in the world of finance, ultimately as vice president of Fiduciary Trust Company in Boston, a company focused on personalized wealth management. Known for his infectious laugh, gracious demeanor, and genuine concern for others, Mr. Meyer thoroughly enjoyed coming together with family and friends. In his free time, he enjoyed playing tennis, working in his yard, and test driving new cars. Mr. Meyer is survived by his daughter, Katherine Meyer-Cushing, and her spouse, Lauren; his stepson, F. Morgan Rodd ’82; and four grandsons, David Rodd and Nathan, Simon, and Peter Cushing. He was predeceased by his wife, Elizabeth Channing Meyer. 

 

1957 Walter S. Cluett

A man who was meticulous by nature and an architect by profession, died on December 31, 2017, in Little Compton, R.I. He was 78. Mr. Cluett was born on October 22, 1939, the first son of Eugenia and George Bywater Cluett II of the Form of 1922. He grew up in Saranac Lake, N.Y., with his three siblings, Constance, George, and Mary. Mr. Cluett developed a love of sailing at the Sakannet Yacht Club in Little Compton, where the family spent its summers. In 1953, Mr. Cluett came to St. Paul’s as a Third Former from the Friends Academy in New Bedford, Mass. Before him and his father, his grandfather, Walter H. Cluett of the Form of 1888, had attended the School. At SPS, he was a member of the Acolyte’s Guild, the Missionary Society, and the Scientific Association. He was on the sailing team, rowed with Halcyon, and competed in soccer, hockey, and cross country for Old Hundred. 

Mr. Cluett went on to study architecture at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, graduating in 1963. He enjoyed the knitting of shape and pattern and would create paintings and models of a geometric nature in addition to his building designs, which he often mocked up with LEGOs. He served in the U.S. Army as an Airborne Ranger from 1963 to 1965. Although Mr. Cluett had a slight build, he was determined and confident that he would succeed. He used his wit to solve problems and assisted other Rangers through the tough navigation portion of their training, entering the swamp lands several times on their behalf. On October 22, 1971, Mr. Cluett married Sandra Dickinson Philippi. Together the couple raised two children, Kyre and Sereyna. Eventually, the family moved to Boston, where Mr. Cluett began his career as an architect in Boston and Woodstock, Vt. His work, which included many complex residential and commercial buildings, was marked by beauty, grace, and balance.

During his two terms as a trustee for the Village of Woodstock, Mr. Cluett worked to preserve the beauty of the town by improving village infrastructure and maintaining historic covered bridges. In retirement, Mr. Cluett nursed his lifelong passion for boats by studying boat design and building at The Landing School in Arundel, Maine. He used his new skills to create intricate model boats, which were precise reproductions of life-sized boats. Some of his work was published in the Ships in Scale magazine and remains on display at the Herreshoff Marine Museum in Bristol, R.I. Mr. Cluett also pursued many other hobbies, including fast cars, sculpture, painting, gardening, and puzzles. He enjoyed a challenge – mental or physical – and was always up for cards, bridge or hearts in particular. Walter Cluett is survived by his son, Kyre Cluett, his daughter, Sereyna Cagle, and their families. He is remembered as an intelligent, accomplished, and private man, with patience and love for his children and grandchildren. 

 

1960 Clarkson Lindley

An avid sportsman, traveler, and adoring family man, died on January 2, 2018. He was 75. Mr. Lindley was born on October 10, 1942, in Minneapolis, on the shores of Lake Minnetonka, a place to which he returned in the 1980s after traveling, skiing, and riding horses around the world. “Losing his father in an airplane crash made him a very level-headed young man,” according to his teachers at St. Paul’s. After the crash, a prominent Minneapolis family with roots in New Hampshire urged Mr. Lindley’s mother to send her bright, curious boy to St. Paul’s as a Third Former in 1956.

While at St. Paul’s Mr. Lindley continued riding horses and skiing, which he had begun at age three with his mother, herself an Olympic-level skier. He also participated in the Mathematics Society, the Rocket Society, and the Scientific Association, competed in soccer and track for Isthmian, and rowed with Shattuck. He earned Second Testimonials and graduated cum laude with honors in English, history, and chemistry. Mr. Lindley continued his education at Yale, earning a degree in history in 1964, before spending a post-graduate year studying in Munich. Mr. Lindley stayed in Europe after college for some time, pursuing adventures in his Porsche, the first of many fun cars he would own. His first professional job was for the French national electric company, which sought to electrify the countryside. Armed with a fresh-faced charm and fluency in French, he sat at farmers’ dining tables to convince them that electricity wouldn’t burn down their barns or kill their families. During the war in Vietnam, Mr. Lindley served as a U.S. Naval officer. At age 42, he began his studies for a law degree from the University of Minnesota Law School, despite being the same age as the dean. He completed that degree in 1986, and launched his own real estate law practice in 1988, meeting with gusto the challenge of starting a new career mid-life. Mr. Lindley maintained a lifelong passion for wildlife and the outdoors, especially for horses. In addition to riding and fox hunting, he produced horse events, including the American Gold Cup, the first spectator show-jumping event in the U.S., and served as communications director for the Ledyard Horse Trials in Hamilton, Mass.

An interest in history and architecture informed his sharp eye for art and antiques. He and his wife, Nancy, built a custom home in Medina, Minn., to house their collections. To avoid the monotony of yard maintenance, he designed and created a self-sustaining prairie for wildlife on their estate. Mr. Lindley maintained a devotion to St. Paul’s, serving as a regional representative for 19 years. He missed only one major reunion for the School, when he was diagnosed with cancer. Treatment at the Mayo Clinic helped him fight off the disease several times. He took each diagnosis in stride, armed in part by his quiet, steady Episcopal faith, which he first found at St. Paul’s. He is survived by his wife, Nancy, and their son, Carter.

 

1960 Peter Norton Lord

A gentleman in every way, died on November 19, 2017, after a four-month battle with mesothelioma. He was 75. Prior to attending St. Paul’s, Mr. Lord was educated at Grosse Pointe University School in Detroit, where he first discovered a love of sports. He golfed throughout his life and picked up curling in middle age, which brought him and his wife, Lyn, around the country and north to Canada. Mr. Lord enrolled at St. Paul’s as a Third Former in the fall of 1955, where he competed in soccer, hockey, and crew with Isthmian and Shattuck. He also served as a Chapel warden, sang with the Glee Club, was a member of the Library Association, and was chairman of the Dance Committee.

After graduating from Princeton in 1965, Mr. Lord served a commission in the U.S. Navy on the U.S.S. Kitty Hawk. After his service, he studied at the University of Chicago and earned his M.B.A. in 1971. He and Lyn settled in Tuxedo Park, N.Y., for many years, where Mr. Lord built a career as an auditor and a mergers and acquisitions specialist. He served on the board of the Tuxedo Park School, working on school finances and financial reporting. In 1993, he purchased Kirk Eastern, a steel fabricating company in Gardner, Mass. Mr. Lord served as president of Kirk Eastern until his death and was the type of boss who knew all of his employees and supported them through difficult times in their lives, often quietly and without fanfare. 

A gracious and kind man, Mr. Lord was known for making everyone around him feel welcome and comfortable. During his illness, he and Lyn treasured the outpouring of love and friendship through many phone messages, e-mails, and notes. Mr. Lord is survived by his wife, Lyn; his daughter, Marjorie, and son-in-law, Brian; his daughter, Barbara, and son-in-law, Gregory; three grandchildren; and his sister, Jane.

 

1985 Craig Fitzhugh Stout

A man known for his hearty laugh, affability, and unceasingly positive outlook, died peacefully on December 28, 2017, surrounded by friends and family after a battle with cancer. He was 50 years old. Mr. Stout was born on September 17, 1967, to Anthony C. Stout ’57 and Julie Jeppson Stout. He grew up in Washington, D.C., and attended St. Alban’s School, until enrolling at St. Paul’s School as a Third Former in the fall of 1981. At SPS, he wrote for the Horae Scholasticae and hosted a radio show on WSPS-FM. He also competed for Old Hundred in soccer and hockey and represented SPS on the JV lacrosse team. A colorful and recognizable character around campus, Mr. Stout had a mischievous but infectious smile and sartorial preferences that tended toward denim. He had a special fondness for the time he spent living in Ford as a Third Former, where he came to be affectionately known as “Doughboy.” His SPS friends recall his easygoing and pleasant demeanor and his ability to laugh at himself. Mr. Stout had a special place in his heart for SPS and the many friends he made in Millville.

Mr. Stout also attended the Fountain Valley School in Colorado, where he enjoyed life in the West and being outdoors in the mountains. He also was enamored with the ocean. Mr. Stout enrolled in an instructional sailing program, during which time he sailed from New Zealand to Tahiti, an open-sea voyage of more than 2,500 miles. He studied at Georgetown and completed his undergraduate studies at American University, where he earned a B.A. in literature in 1989. He was a voracious reader and crossword aficionado. Having spent much of his life in Washington, D.C., Mr. Stout’s friends joked that he was the city’s mayor, since he knew so many people from different neighborhoods and backgrounds. Naturally gregarious, he was a first-rate storyteller with an ability to bring people together. He also was a consummate entertainer. He hosted many memorable social gatherings, always welcoming his guests in person, and presiding over the festivities with his inscrutable Cheshire Cat grin. Over the years, several SPS friends lived with Mr. Stout, including David Foulke ’85, John Greene ’85, Nick Stevens ’85, and John Trevor ’85.

Mr. Stout was a devoted father to his three children. He also had a long and successful business career, primarily in finance. While in Washington, D.C., he was C.F.O. of the Government Investment Management Corporation. He also did stints in finance in other industries, including telecommunications and healthcare. He lived abroad in several cities, including London, where he worked for Elders IXL Ltd., an Australian conglomerate, and Bermuda, where he worked for RenaissanceRe Holdings Ltd., a reinsurance company. He was a cosmopolitan traveler who was as happy vacationing in Thailand as he was skiing in France or hunting grouse in Scotland. He had friends all over the world. Mr. Stout also spent many happy years at “The Farm,” a family property in Brookfield, Mass. Its quiet, sylvan beauty offered an ideal setting for family reunions and long weekends for large groups of friends. In keeping with Mr. Stout’s personality, life at The Farm was a social whirlwind, with family and friends constantly coming and going. He relished being the ringleader and force behind the celebratory dynamic. A gracious host, Mr. Stout would act as chef for dozens of guests at a time, preparing lavish dinners and brunches. Great experiences at The Farm made an indelible impression on his friends. Contemplating the prospect of a more mellow, bucolic lifestyle, Mr. Stout moved to The Farm in 2008 to manage it full-time on behalf of his family. It was a good fit for him. He enjoyed chopping firewood, savoring views of the lake from his porch, watching for bald eagles, and walking his two dogs through nearby fields and meadows with his wife, Stacy. During this time, he also acted as caregiver to his father, providing him comfort and dignity during his father’s final years of life.

His friends will miss Mr. Stout’s kindhearted nature and the spirit of camaraderie that defined him. He always looked for the good in everyone and left a profound impression on those who were lucky enough to know him intimately. Craig Stout is survived by his wife, Stacy; his second wife, Laura, and their son, Connor; his first wife, Lyn, their daughter, Carder, and son, Cullen; and his four siblings, Carder Stout ’87, Antonia, Julie Stout ’95, and Marcus. John Trevor ’85, Dave Foulke ’85, and Carder Stout ’8 contributed to the writing of this obituary.